About Me
Sammy here.
Thanks for taking the time to visit us here. Gloria and I hope you will find this blog helpful in your effort to build and maintain good relationships.
Gloria and I have shared a strong and blessed marriage for the past 5 years at the time of writing this. And I can proudly say, we are still deeply in love with each other. In fact, as time progressed, our love and mutual understanding has grown immensely.
But it has not been easy. We had our share of ups and downs, quarelling and making up, laughter and tears, shouting and silence, but I am glad we made it through that all.
When we came together, I was as manly as a man could be. I just couldn’t get myself to understand her. Women feel and think so differently. Of course, Gloria was also learning a lot about how men behave.
I had a hectic work schedule. Often I used to be late for days on the end. She was a homemaker that time. When I was frequently being late, she began to complain. Slowly, the complaints turned to accusations that I didn’t care for her. Her accusations shocked me. I didn’t know how to react – should I be angry at her for misunderstanding me or should I try to explain the urgency at work? Neither was appropriate. Thankfully, I did not react in haste. I just got to the root of her complaints – emotional insecurity.
That was my first lesson and it came as a shocker. Women can become very insecure emotionally and if it turns severe, the consequences on the relationship can be disastrous. Once I understood this, all I had to do was to be there for her. I spoke to her softly, gave her time to calm her nerves, she leaned her head on my shoulder and cried for a long time. I promised to take her out on the weekend which I did. And that was it. The problem was overcome. Of course, I became a lot more cautious about being late frequently. That was my way of showing her that she was important to me.
My verbal communication skills were very poor. Though I have improved now after being with Gloria for so long. I could not speak freely to unfamiliar people. I was very very bad at building new relations. Gloria is gifted with excellent communication skills, the most potent of which is her disarming smile. She talks to people easily and uses a lot of her sixth sense to understand them.
Naturally, she became my spokesperson, most of the times during social interactions. Of course, I did communicate well once I was familiar with people. But I needed her to get the ball rolling. Without her I would be tongue-tied in unfamiliar social terrain. Just because of her communication abilities, we were able to forge many good social relations and maintain them. And that is a very important part of our life – so you do not remain isolated but network with people around. Today I have improved much, but still she is my ‘expert social networker’. However, she didn’t allow me to put a picture of us here. She is very media-shy you know, she doesn’t want the paparazzi following us. So I said, ‘okay, if you want it that way, that’s how its going to be’.
Over the years, I came to know this. Nobody is perfect. But we will do well if we understand and complement each others’ strengths and work upon our weaknesses.
I feel happy and blessed today because Gloria is a part of me. And she feels the same. Not because we’re perfect. But because we love each other deeply.
We connected with each other not just in the physical but also in the emotional, mental and spiritual realms. I believe that’s the secret to a blessed relationship. You don’t just share a house or wealth. You share your body, soul and spirit with each other. There has to be a higher spiritual connect.
I encourage you to find your connect.
Wishing you good times
Sammy
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